This is the difference.
This is the difference when you are a military wife.
Your husband gets his orders
And now it is time to get ready.
He draws up a will, draws up a power of attorney
Where you have control of everything now
And then he leaves for war
And you know that he may die.
Before he leaves he talks about it, dying, about
Where you should live, who would help you, and
How to get the life insurance money.
He makes these plans for you, postmortem plans
And after he leaves you have to accept it, accept
That he may die and you could be a widow.
And you think about it, just like you think about
Him coming home, you think about him dying,
Fantasize really, about what you would do,
Who you would be, your life without him.
And then he comes home, a ghost
That you are only half prepared for.